One Hard Look at..


This older poem sums me up in a nutshell: over thinker, dreamer, lover. I love hard but I think way too much about it and it can keep me up at night. Sometimes it has nothing to do with love and I am just not ready for the day to end and a new day to begin. There is too much to think about. Just another hour, then I will go to sleep. . . . . . #lovingyou #lovehard #insomnia #overthinking #obsessing #timetomeditate #timeforselfcare #selfcare #sleep #shutitdown #selfimprove

The Visitor

Grief is dark and powerful and rears its ugly head with no warning. It isn't something to be afraid of, however. I embrace grief as a process, as a part of life. It hurts when it has its grips on you but will eventually release. I wish there was more honesty about grief as it doesn't have to be this horrible shame-causing experience. I have found grief to be freeing and life-changing; a good reason for self-care. There is life after grief. 🖤 On a side note, I am really

The Spiral

I wrote this poem the other day when I was spiraling back into codependency. Trying to hold on to something that doesn't want to be held onto. On top of it all, I had a migraine with vertigo so I felt the physical manifestation of my "relapse". It felt like defeat at the time but I now know that I have the tools and resources to get right back to a healthier mindset and take today as it comes. I will remind myself that I am worth it and stick to my boundaries. #codependenc

Line Drawing

Sometimes when I'm doing self-improvement work I beat myself up over things I have done wrong. But when the problem doesn't go away I often realize that it's because I didn't set boundaries or I didn't stick to them. If you've done everything you can and you set clear boundaries then it's time to forgive yourself and step back. This applies to family, friends, clients and colleagues. Every part of life can benefit from healthy boundaries. #selfimprovement #boundaries #SelfCar

Milk from the Hardware Store

I'm incredibly lucky that I have some close girl friends that don't judge me and truly offer unconditional support through tough times. I haven't always had this type of friendship because I wasn't willing to be vulnerable in the past and was always looking to fix other people's problems rather than just listen and empathize. Honestly, I always thought I had the answers. It's still a weakness of mine because sometimes I do have answers and I want to share them with people

I am my actions.

Photo credit: Oliver Sjöström, Instagram: @ollivves, Website: Thoughts are not reality. We can be whomever we want to be through our actions. #overthinking #SelfCare #actionsspeaklouderthanthoughts #onehardlook #iammyactions #bepresent #detachfromyourmind #showyourself #dailyaffirmation #afternoonaffirmation


When I was younger I never would have imagined that I would become a cheerleader for therapy. Then a difficult situation that I had no control over gave me no choice but to ask for help. It was survival time and I needed help navigating the murky waters of life. My new life guide, or life vest as she feels like at times because therapy definitely keeps me afloat, is everything I have ever looked for in a therapist. I tried therapy maybe twice in high school and a short per


One hard look at perfectionism from infancy to adulthood. Saying Goodbye to Perfection “I think perfectionism is based on the obsessive belief that if you run carefully enough, hitting each stepping-stone just right, you won't have to die. The truth is that you will die anyway and that alot of people who aren't even looking at their feet are going to do a whole lot better than you, and have a lot more fun while they're doing it.” -Anne Lamott As I mentioned in my first