One Hard Look at..

The Visitor

Grief is dark and powerful and rears its ugly head with no warning. It isn't something to be afraid of, however. I embrace grief as a process, as a part of life. It hurts when it has its grips on you but will eventually release. I wish there was more honesty about grief as it doesn't have to be this horrible shame-causing experience. I have found grief to be freeing and life-changing; a good reason for self-care. There is life after grief. đź–¤ On a side note, I am really


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A piece of me

It feels as though you have my limb. I wonder what you keep it in. Does it ever come in handy When you have an itch you cannot reach? Do you use it to find buried treasure Like a shovel on the beach? Will I ever get it back? And when I do, will it be branded With a tattoo of barbed wire That was a little heavy-handed? Or will it come back soft and supple After a day inside a spa With shimmering glitter lotion From a one hundred dollar jar? Will it be so long without me That i

Losing a Friend

Every time I make a roasted chicken or fettuccine. When I make a mustard-olive oil sauce for steamed artichokes. When I think of Richmond. Every couple of days just because. These are some of the times I think about my friend Lynn. I met her my sophomore year of college when she was my supervisor at work and although she was seventeen years older, we clicked right away. She was passionate, artistic and had a tendency to overthink like me but she also taught me to enjoy t

A New Year, A New Change in Gear

2019 is fast approaching and I'm checking off a resolution a few days early. New Year, New Change in Gear 2018 was a doozy. I went into the year knowing it wouldn't be easy but I had no idea the challenges that lay ahead. You name it, I dealt with it. There is plenty of time to get into the nitty gritty but I would like to start by welcoming you to my blog. It's a new year, I've got new change in gear. I swear, I can see clear now the clouds disappeared. -Wyclef Jean, The


You are worthy of attention. You are worthy of gifts. You are worthy of positive support and love during the holidays. If you aren't receiving it then you can find it within. This is my reminder for tomorrow when stress will be at its highest. I am giving myself permission to step away from chaos or lack of respect without apologizing. I am giving myself space to grieve when I am reminded of personal loss. It's okay to be sad during the #mostwonderfultimeoftheyear.

White Noise

I'm all out of fight..... I'm all out of fight. I'm done with the noise. It's drowning out logic With its deafening voice. None of it's true but I'm made to believe Letting go is the answer No more thank yous or please. Allowing the distant eyes and the pace That's full of friction from the internal race To quiet the noise that's inside of his head To lessen the pain from emotional dread Yet this way we suffer This way we yearn For the man who isn't here And who will never re

Give it Up

We can change the world with one simple plan..... From our heads to our hearts to our hands, We can change the world with one simple plan: Being vulnerable, courageous and brave, Giving a piece of ourselves without expecting the same. Showing compassion instead of listening to fear; That will bring us together and heal what is here. The rest doesn't really exist. They are just thoughts and worries and things that we miss When we're so busy coping and numbing our pain, So I be